Self-Care isn’t Selfish and It Also Isn’t Taking a Bath

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Hear me loud and clear, self-care isn’t selfish.

While self-care is essential for everyone, this post goes out to the mamas. 

Self-care seems to be a trendy topic these days, particularly among the mama crowd. I can’t help to think it’s because we are trying to do it all and be all the things to everyone.  

There are posts out there that talk about going on “momcations” with friends to get some “me” time. But realistically, that isn’t an option for everyone. The truth is self-care is a lot simpler than that. 

Self-care is learning to say no to things, even if you previously said yes to them.

Maybe you have always taken on extra responsibilities in the school PTO. Or perhaps you are the person at work who always says yes to just one more project. Whatever your yeses were, it’s okay to say no now. 

Remember, whenever you say yes to someone else, you are saying no to yourself. Be sure to find a balance. 

Self-care isn’t driving alone in the car to Target. 

While most moms will tell you that driving in the car alone is like heaven, the silence isn’t always enough. While you’re driving, turn on your favorite podcast or audiobook. Perhaps you can check in with a friend you haven’t talked to in a while.  

Related: Self-Care Ideas for the Busy Mom

A woman cannot live on a bath alone.

A nice warm Epson salt bath sounds like a dream. While this can give you a temporary feeling of relaxation, it’s simply not enough long term. Along with taking a bath or having a spa day (if you can), allow yourself to rest. Be intentional with your time and don’t over commit (remember what a yes really means). 

Know your limits and set boundaries.

Part of not overcommitting is knowing your limits. Don’t try to cram so much life into a week or weekend that there isn’t time to enjoy it. Let go of that friendship or mommy group that isn’t bringing you joy or feeding your soul. Maybe you need to take a break from that volunteer organization you’re a part of, or perhaps your kids don’t need to be in every single sport. Remember, when you practice self-care by setting limits and boundaries, you are modeling how to do it for your kids. 

Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s healing yourself.

Few of us make it into motherhood without something that has left us hurt, scarred, or possibly broken. These events have made us who we are now, but they don’t have to define who we will become. Take some time to journal, pray, meditate, or seek professional help. Whatever it takes to heal you from the inside out is what true self-care is all about. 

Remember Mamas, self-care isn’t selfish. It is sometimes messy, sometimes beautiful, and always necessary.